I think about many things that happen around me. Almost everything, starting from my opening the eyes to a dream to closing them at night with a wish to dream about something. That almost covers everything that I will do in my whole life, so what I mean is I think about almost everything that "happens" around me. The word "Love" invented by some noble person, and eventually this word has taken over every person. Every single human being "Love" someone or something, but does he/she know meaning of it ???
According to Oxford Dictionary Online : Love is a strong feeling of affection, a person or a thing one loves, a great interest or pleasure in something OR Love is score of Zero (0-15, 0-5) in squash, badminton, lawn tennis etc.
Wow!!! That is an amazing and totally diversified repository of meaning for the word "Love".
What I wonder about is, how people say they "love someone", and even more intriguing is how they come to know they lov...ahh lets for the moment say love as "feeling", so how do people know they have feelings for someone or is it only a score for them in life. I have met many people in my life, of all sorts, many of them said, it's a feeling when you know you want to spend your rest of the life with that person only. Even more say when feeling cannot be described its love. Some say when you are ready to make adjustment to your life for the want of being other person. Some say when you are attracted to someone physically. Some say when you feel happy with someone. Some say when you care about the person. And some do say its nothing, what's the harm in saying if that keeps person happy. And yet there is a category for whom it is a score, example : I loved you this many time.
The funny thing is not all can be true, because if they were then, all people around you will be happy along-with you being happy. But as this is not the case, so we can deduce a corollary that, all the above feelings singly do not constitute love. I will give my opinion later, firstly let me try to consolidate and put in front of you something that you will like to read.
This feeling we are talking about is actually somewhat mixture of all the above definitions and may be more than that. So what do we have in hands...
it's a feeling when you know you want to spend your rest of the life with that person only: take for example, the feeling you have for your mother, you would always want to spend your life with her if allowed.
when feeling cannot be described its love. The feeling you have for your dog, though it's relationship of master and slave, but yet it's beyond those realm's of boundaries. You feel for your dog, and once you start feeling for your dog, you start feeling for all dogs. Can you describe it.. No (ohh! Cmon!, if you can ACTUALLY describe this, you can describe the feeling also)
when you are ready to make adjustment to your life for the want of being other person. When we talk of these adjustment, these had to be of level of the one you make to stick to your dream job. You adjust with bad bosses, back stabbing colleagues who always want to pull you down when you are down, and pull pocket down when you are happy, bad clients, bad economy, low salary...all that you have is satisfaction of having your dream job and you stick to it.
Rest all are pretty clear in themselves, so the bottom-line is if you can mix all this in your definition of the feeling, well you will be happy 80-90 percent, and that too you will have to think about when to apply which definition in what arguments (Obviously you know life is full of arguments). So a tedious job. Ehh!!!, yes it is, but ain't the feeling awesome.
As for my opinion, let's keep this part of life with the feeling a badminton game.
You are playing a game of 21, and say with a very small child (the person you have feeling for)(because every one cares for child, and wants to make them smile). Well you start playing, and you let the child win some points...(points are the arguments, and who wins the points wins the arguments, the toughness of rally determines intensity of arguments). So you let the child win some points, then you start upping the tempo, playing some hard strokes, which child manages to pick up but also get exhausted and starts crying that I want to win, and then you suddenly make fool out of your shot and child wins the point and is happy, so are you. The game keeps continuing, every time you lengthen the rally, you have to make fool out of yourself and let child win the point. Sometimes child leave the court, but you console child to come back and play with a promise that you will play easy. But where is the fun without long rallies. Well in this way obviously child is going to win, well that's the trick, slowly child learns to have fun in those rallies and doesn't mind losing few points and that's when you actually start having actual fun and start enjoy the game. But still game will end at 21 point right ???, that's the funny part, when you see other losing, you make fool of yourself and other wins the point, so game keeps extending and enters a never ending loop. Well that feeling of have fun during rallies and making fool of yourself to let other win is Love for me. The only thing both need to learn is not to let other lose, the day that happens when you let other lose, well game is over. And all you can do is start game all over again!!!
Incidentally my game is stuck at love-twenty(0-20), match-point for the child
And I am stuck between
Love or Love !!!
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